Is Dating Boring? Are YOU The Problem?

Tired of Boring Dates? Let’s Liven Them Up!

 

Dating has its challenges and boredom is a common one. But what if the problem is YOU?

 

Are YOU making your dates boring?

 

Now this has nothing to do with the location or activity. It could be that you are bored of the process and taking that flat energy into the date.  If you are bored before the date begins, not only are you bored, but your date will be too.

 

If you don’t liven things up for the two of you, then the date is essentially over and you will never want to see each other again.

 

Want to make sure that you aren’t sabotaging your dates? Try these 6 things.

 

1.Decision Time! Do you even want to date right now? 

If you need a break from dating to have some other fun in your life take it!  Your dating life will never go anywhere if your heart isn’t in it. Get involved in a hobby, join a league, sign up for a small group, take a class, travel, or volunteer. You are free to try new things. Seize the moment! That excitement you build in your life brings out a new attractive energy in you making you even more appealing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

2.What type of relationship are you looking for? 

Without the answer to this question, your dates will all be random and lead to nowhere quickly. You will both start off on different pages and therefore not know how to proceed…. 

If you don’t know what you want, a woman can sense it and your not knowing makes her feel unsafe –  then it’s over. You also deserve to be dating a woman that knows what she wants – so ask her. Do you want the same things?

3.Spice it up! 

Do not take your dates to the same hangout. First, if you are in a small town, this leads to a ton of gossip. You do not want that for you or your date.  The staff is also likely to tease you or make comments to reveal that you are out with this month’s flavor of the month, or tell her she looks familiar…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

4.Create Intrigue!

Most of the reason you are bored on a date is you aren’t sure what to talk about.  Having interesting conversation starters prepared is important if there is an awkward lull. Here are few…

• What type of vacations do you enjoy?
• What would be your idea of a fun lazy Sunday?
• If you could take a class from anyone in the world who would it be and what would you like them to teach you?
• Favorite food when you want to eat whatever you want?
• Top 3 movies

These topics should take you down a path so conversation flows and leads from one conversation to another. Don’t give up! Eventually your date will latch on to a topic and start chattering away.

 

 

5.Keep it Light!  Do not talk about Execs or Traumas

Those heavy topics are wonderful for down the road and will help you connect, but it is just too much heavy info for a 1st or 2nd date. Keep the conversation lighthearted so you stay on the path of fun, not darknes. If your chat turns down a dark path, move on by changing the subject.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

6.Eye on the Goal!

The goal of this date is simply to decide if you want a second date. That is it!!! Take the pressure of by remembering the simple goal. 

No one is deciding if they will be a good influence on their children, a good retirement companion, a worthy marriage partner or a great date for the company holiday party. This date is simply to decide if you want more time to get to know them. 

 

Enjoy yourself!  New date locations and intriguing conversation is all you need to have a lively enjoyable date. And if you are tired of dating, take a break! There is NO point in dating for the sake of it, you would be wasting their time and yours.